What should a husband do if his wife is not having sex with him and he's done nothing wrong?

[Arthur L Davis AKA Malcom X King]

There are men and women who are suffering from a somewhat or lack of sex. It not that the mate is not doing things right in the relationship and caring for the needs of one they love; it's not the kids; councelling don't help not to mention can be expensive; talking about it one on one becomes old and irritating; some don't want a divorce for multiple reason's but the number one reason it that it cost a lot and not to many end on a good note; some many deside to pleasure themselves privately but some would consider masterbating as cheating; you tried going to the doctor to get answers and it seem's nothing is working not even prayer.

 

I know many men and women going through this issue and it has not been easy for them and I will include myself in dealing with this so I like many others just go through trying live without confronting the issue.

 

In my case after trying all that could do asked that question that most people ask when in doubt;

"Is there someone else"?

The answer is always the same, No!

 

So I go through the years without and in between the months or year when she feels like it I will engage but lately I have reached a level of I really don't want it even when she ask and I feel I have to force  myself to get in the mood and it's a total turn off so I'd rather watch the nature channel, now that's good times there!

 

But tell me what you all think and don't hold back sisters because I know you won't!

  

[HipHopcheerleader]

Masturbate or get a divorce.

[sharon lovely]

Final words there are usually three sides to every story your side, your wife's side and the Truth...I am sure everyone would like to hear her side also...I am a Christian also and many that claim to be Holy Roller's are usually sinner's hiding behind the word of God...God knows all.

[Gigi]

It could be a number of things. Family dynamics in every household is different from the next. Is she going through menopause maybe? Or keeping a secret about a serious health matter? Maybe she's just not feeling her husband for whatever reason, however, a real issue for her. Maybe romance is missing from the equation? I say possible menopause. Some women withdraw and others are enlightened in their womanhood. Just my opinion.

[Arthur L Davis AKA Malcom X King]

Thank you, don't forget to check out my follow up info.
Gigi said:

It could be a number of things. Family dynamics in every household is different from the next. Is she going through menopause maybe? Or keeping a secret about a serious health matter? Maybe she's just not feeling her husband for whatever reason, however, a real issue for her. Maybe romance is missing from the equation? I say possible menopause. Some women withdraw and others are enlightened in their womanhood. Just my opinion.

[Arthur L Davis AKA Malcom X King]

TThank you for your input, I am looking forward in letting my wife place her comment on this page about this issue; and I'm happy to not be mr. holly roller because I christianity and its white mans theology needs to be given a careful look by Gods chosen people so that they began seeing more truth about this world and understand our position and place.
sharon lovely said:

Final words there are usually three sides to every story your side, your wife's side and the Truth...I am sure everyone would like to hear her side also...I am a Christian also and many that claim to be Holy Roller's are usually sinner's hiding behind the word of God...God knows all.

[Arthur L Davis AKA Malcom X King]

Your so bad! Well, masterbating feels good as one has also done this to one another but I'd rather get in closer as it is designed. And to get a divorce is something we both don't want and not just because even we are poor it's cheaper to each other but because being that we live in a real lost society, we need one another more now then we have ever needed before no matter what personal issues we face we must agree as we do to work through to try to make things better. And not just because I got good hands!

HipHopcheerleader said:

Masturbate or get a divorce.

[Arthur L Davis AKA Malcom X King]

I humbly and trully thank you and my heart goes out to all of MY dear sister's that are listening, Dear heart, at times when your brother don't know where to turn by being one who has allowed God to open mine eyes to the true nature of this world I am not ashamed to say I cry because we as Gods people are in a hell of a position and I cry because it hurt! My wife and I grew up diffrently but like many of us in and around bad influences that causes us to be who we are today and some of us are walking sleep undesided and or either dead and this is all a well planned trap in having us serve a master that hates us. My wife no matter what she has or may have done it the past that are her mistakes just as I have made many mistakes along the way will never compare to the masterful evil works that is inflicted on us as a people by this America. Sweet pea, I love her! and I know that she has to deal with her internal self in order to go further in this relationship and in her personal communication with God. And I would love to have sex with her every day but I rather do something more to help her love herself and educate her and our children to understand life and its difficulties so that we can all stand together.
I after being attacked by two black grown men at my tender age of seven could have given into homosexual spirits that wanted to transform me through those years but God in me made your brother a fighter and I further imbraced the want and love of WOMAN and found striength in the lives of leaders who are today inspirations to my life that has caused me to live in the mist and among the storms.

I love you and me and my wife thank you, Gods love and peace be with you!

SweeTea said:

Mr. King...you certainly have a king gene. Big ups to you for sticking by your woman despite the fact that your sex life is not all that it could be. You are a great catch!!! How lucky for your woman to have a man in her life who truly loves her, not just physically but spiritually. It's what every woman longs for. It's you they wish to find every time they lay down with a "baby daddy"...is he the one? Is he the one to love me unconditionally? Is he the one to protect and provide for me and the children? You are the one!! You deserve to be appreciated for the man you are, and even though I don't know you, I'll say thank you. Thank you for loving her beyond your pain, thank you for loving her children who are not your own, thank you for giving me hope that there are black men who walk the walk instead of talk the talk. Thank you.

[Sonya Alydia DuPont]

YOU "SEE IT" THROUGH LOVE...(UNITY) AND "IT WORKS" OUT EVERYTIME..,IF YOU  HAD FALLEN WEAK JUST SLIGHTLY  FOR A SECOND..BE IT FOR MENTAL, OR  THE OUTSIDE WORLDLY REASONING...WE WOULD HAVE JUST ADDED YOU TO THE LIST OF YET ANOTHER SEVERED FAMILY... OUR "BLACK" LOVE IS EVERYTHING!!! AND WELL WORTH FIGHTING FOR,SO FIGHT MY BROTHER, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU GET IT RIGHT,"YOU'LL GET "IT";RIGHT?"

THANK YOU FOR THIS HAPPY ENDING ARTHUR:)

SONYA A-

Arthur L Davis AKA Malcom X King said:

I humbly and trully thank you and my heart goes out to all of MY dear sister's that are listening, Dear heart, at times when your brother don't know where to turn by being one who has allowed God to open mine eyes to the true nature of this world I am not ashamed to say I cry because we as Gods people are in a hell of a position and I cry because it hurt! My wife and I grew up diffrently but like many of us in and around bad influences that causes us to be who we are today and some of us are walking sleep undesided and or either dead and this is all a well planned trap in having us serve a master that hates us. My wife no matter what she has or may have done it the past that are her mistakes just as I have made many mistakes along the way will never compare to the masterful evil works that is inflicted on us as a people by this America. Sweet pea, I love her! and I know that she has to deal with her internal self in order to go further in this relationship and in her personal communication with God. And I would love to have sex with her every day but I rather do something more to help her love herself and educate her and our children to understand life and its difficulties so that we can all stand together.
I after being attacked by two black grown men at my tender age of seven could have given into homosexual spirits that wanted to transform me through those years but God in me made your brother a fighter and I further imbraced the want and love of WOMAN and found striength in the lives of leaders who are today inspirations to my life that has caused me to live in the mist and among the storms.

I love you and me and my wife thank you, Gods love and peace be with you!

SweeTea said:

Mr. King...you certainly have a king gene. Big ups to you for sticking by your woman despite the fact that your sex life is not all that it could be. You are a great catch!!! How lucky for your woman to have a man in her life who truly loves her, not just physically but spiritually. It's what every woman longs for. It's you they wish to find every time they lay down with a "baby daddy"...is he the one? Is he the one to love me unconditionally? Is he the one to protect and provide for me and the children? You are the one!! You deserve to be appreciated for the man you are, and even though I don't know you, I'll say thank you. Thank you for loving her beyond your pain, thank you for loving her children who are not your own, thank you for giving me hope that there are black men who walk the walk instead of talk the talk. Thank you.