IF YO' HAIR IS RELAXED U R A SELL OUT

[HipHopcheerleader]

? waana-beez vs. the jiggabooz?

I do not think that every sista or brotha who is wearing a conk is a sell out. In fact it never dawned on me to even consider this one way or the other. Dang! So many brothas and sistas who ask me about my hair tend to think I am encouraging the ladies to wear a weave or a perm. I do neither. I encourage the ladies to care for the hair growing out of their scalp period. How they chose to do this is their beezwax!

I advocate HEALTHY hair no matter what state you chose to wear it in. Do you really believe for example that the first lady is a self-hating Black woman? Uncle Ruckus in a dress? No I do not think so. Some ladies say they enjoy the manageability of relaxed hair. Some of the best tips I've gotten about my natural hair have come from relaxed sistas. In fact I encourage the ladies who are transitioning out of a relaxer to wear a wig, or a PROPERLY installed weave. Y not?

Black women have a long history of "hair-affairs". I want to see us enjoying more unity. We do not have to cut each others throat just b/c we do not agree with each others choices about hair.

U.N.I.T.Y.

[Teresa]

Caring for the hair that is growing out of the scalp is what's important, and that is what we (people of color) tend to neglect. Moisturizing and Conditioning is very important , because of the harsh chemicals in relaxers that diminishes, depletes and robs your hair of vital moisture, which later cause breakage. I read recently where going natural isn't necessarily the way to go because of the tangling , then breakage ,because of the tangled hair , causing the split ends factor. What it all boils down to is what type of hair you're working with .

The Hair Style you choose to sport represents a only preference , and shouldn't suggest nothing other than that.

[HipHopcheerleader]

Just because a sista or brotha is natural does not mean they are "enlightened". This is true for chemically processed sistas and brothas too. A processed head of hair does not always mean a processed mind.

I do not use the term "going natural". Y not, b/c we don't have to "go natural", we have only to stay natural. I have dealt with natural hair sistas and can not believe how arrogant and selfish they can be. Not all but some. I try to steer clear of judging folk just b/c of what I see.

It's so interesting to me. Some of the same ladies who tried to give me hell about my nappy neck are now "going natural". I am natural thru and thru for well over 2 decades now. NOT just my hair.

I love my creator, and maintain that love by loving my fellow man/woman. Loving my Creator is not an "en-vogue" thing to do. That's not why I do it, and neither is wearing my hair natural. I do not do it to be en-vogue. I wear my hair natural b/c of where I am in my journey.

It is not my place to act high and mighty, and soooooo deep.
Only G.O.D. can judge us.
U.N.I.T.Y.

[Cynthia Beard]

Hey, I love your thoughts and your mind. And though I presently relax, I too "stay natural" -- I think it is about being authentic, real and down to earth, from the inside out. It shows in our smiles and in our thoughts and in our walks with people.

HipHopcheerleader said:

Just because a sista or brotha is natural does not mean they are "enlightened". This is true for chemically processed sistas and brothas too. A processed head of hair does not always mean a processed mind.

I do not use the term "going natural". Y not, b/c we don't have to "go natural", we have only to stay natural. I have dealt with natural hair sistas and can not believe how arrogant and selfish they can be. Not all but some. I try to steer clear of judging folk just b/c of what I see.

It's so interesting to me. Some of the same ladies who tried to give me hell about my nappy neck are now "going natural". I am natural thru and thru for well over 2 decades now. NOT just my hair.

I love my creator, and maintain that love by loving my fellow man/woman. Loving my Creator is not an "en-vogue" thing to do. That's not why I do it, and neither is wearing my hair natural. I do not do it to be en-vogue. I wear my hair natural b/c of where I am in my journey.

It is not my place to act high and mighty, and soooooo deep.
Only G.O.D. can judge us.
U.N.I.T.Y.

[ABetterFuture]

See the movie 'School Daze' for me, but I thank you HipHopcheerlearder for sharing this. I personally prefer the more natural look than this artificial try to be like 'barbie' look. How long are people going to hide who they/we really are? Why is it so bad to grow your hair out, or to take care of it in your own fashion. Its time when stop being 'relaxed' and start being problack, instead of shifting or condemning people who go against the 'grain' or 'scalp' in that case.

[HipHopcheerleader]

I am an advocate of healthy hair. Healthy self concept, which is relative and subjective.

 

Thank you for your comment : - ))

Immanuel Bryant said:

See the movie 'School Daze' for me, but I thank you HipHopcheerlearder for sharing this. I personally prefer the more natural look than this artificial try to be like 'barbie' look. How long are people going to hide who they/we really are? Why is it so bad to grow your hair out, or to take care of it in your own fashion. Its time when stop being 'relaxed' and start being problack, instead of shifting or condemning people who go against the 'grain' or 'scalp' in that case.

[QuestforKnowledge]

Once black women stop comparing themselves, unconsciously or consciously, to their European and Asian counterparts, having self-love concerning their appearance--hair, body-shape, and full lips--then a balance will be achieved, making the black woman a true force and vibrant beauty, ready to move the village forward into the next generation.

The issue is NOT Perm vs. Natural

 

Peace

[Sonya Alydia DuPont]

2011 MARKS A YEAR OF ME GROWING FROM A MORE "RELAXED" ME TO A ME THAT HAD UNEASINESS AND UNDENIABLE LOCKS THAT HAD TO BE  DEALT WITH PROPERLY...IT HAD TO BE DONE BY MYSELF,BUT ONLY WHEN I WAS "READY" ..BUT  FOR WHAT  EXACTLY...I DID NOT KNOW,TIL TODAY...I ALWAYS APPROACH A CHALLENGE WITH VIGOR,SO WHEN ONE OF MY OWN (BLACK PROFESSIONAL MENTOR'S) MADE A COMMENT THAT, "DREDS DON'T GET ANY RECOGNITION IN THE CORPORATE WORLD.." YOU'RE NOT GONNA BE ABLE TO FIND WORK LOOKING LIKE THAT!" THE SPARK WAS IMMEDIATELY SET A BLAZE...WHEN I WAS YOUNG MY FATHER FORBADE MY MOTHER TO GIVE US PERMS,IN HIS OPINION..(WE HAD ALL WE NEEDED) SO TO REBEL AT 21,I DECIDED TO PERM IF I WAS GONNA DO IT,I BETTER FIND SOMEONE WHO COULD HELP ME TAKE CARE.  THE HAIR WAS LONG,SILKENED,AND EVEN JAPANESE-LOOKING..AND IT WAS MINES...EVERYONE  BEGAN TO RECCOGNIZED ME FOR IT. SO WHY WOULD A SISTER DOWN-TALK ANOTHER OVER A CONSCIENCE DECISION??? **YOU TELL ME. ** ALL I KNOW IS THAT REGUARDLESS OF ANY COMMENTS WE HAVE TO BE AWARE OF DECISIONS WE MAKE FOR SELF AND WHY. BE COMFORTABLE AND APPRECIATIVE OF WHAT WE ALREADY HAVE...I USED TO PAY OUT HUNDREDS FOR THAT "LOOK" NOW WHEN I LOOK IN THE MIRROR BEING WELL AWARE OF SELF...YOU COULDNT PAY ME TO "RELAX" AGAIN:)

PEACE AND HAIR-GREASE MY SISTERS,IT'S "LIBERATING"

P.S. I DON'T KNOCK MY SISTER'S FOR THE "HAIR" CHOICE BECAUSE IT GET'S TOO PERSONAL FOR SOME...I JUST PASS OUT MAGAZINE PHOTO'S OF BEAUTIFUL BLACK HAIRSTYLES TO STRANGERS I ENCOUNTER ON MY DAY TO DAY WITH A BIG SMILE AND SIMPLY SAY,"IT'S JUST A SUGGESTION,YOU SHOULD TRY IT:)"
QuestforKnowledge said:

Once black women stop comparing themselves, unconsciously or consciously, to their European and Asian counterparts, having self-love concerning their appearance--hair, body-shape, and full lips--then a balance will be achieved, making the black woman a true force and vibrant beauty, ready to move the village forward into the next generation.

The issue is NOT Perm vs. Natural

 

Peace

[Generally Informed]

I think we should provide a forum for our youth to educate them selves about how to take care of their hair and as they get older they can make a more inform decision as to what suits them rather than following suit,

[Generally Informed]

Well said Theresa,

Teresa said:

Caring for the hair that is growing out of the scalp is what's important, and that is what we (people of color) tend to neglect. Moisturizing and Conditioning is very important , because of the harsh chemicals in relaxers that diminishes, depletes and robs your hair of vital moisture, which later cause breakage. I read recently where going natural isn't necessarily the way to go because of the tangling , then breakage ,because of the tangled hair , causing the split ends factor. What it all boils down to is what type of hair you're working with .

The Hair Style you choose to sport represents a only preference , and shouldn't suggest nothing other than that.

[Generally Informed]

Thank you for this Sistah,,

Cynthia Beard said:

Hey, I love your thoughts and your mind. And though I presently relax, I too "stay natural" -- I think it is about being authentic, real and down to earth, from the inside out. It shows in our smiles and in our thoughts and in our walks with people.

HipHopcheerleader said:

Just because a sista or brotha is natural does not mean they are "enlightened". This is true for chemically processed sistas and brothas too. A processed head of hair does not always mean a processed mind.

I do not use the term "going natural". Y not, b/c we don't have to "go natural", we have only to stay natural. I have dealt with natural hair sistas and can not believe how arrogant and selfish they can be. Not all but some. I try to steer clear of judging folk just b/c of what I see.

It's so interesting to me. Some of the same ladies who tried to give me hell about my nappy neck are now "going natural". I am natural thru and thru for well over 2 decades now. NOT just my hair.

I love my creator, and maintain that love by loving my fellow man/woman. Loving my Creator is not an "en-vogue" thing to do. That's not why I do it, and neither is wearing my hair natural. I do not do it to be en-vogue. I wear my hair natural b/c of where I am in my journey.

It is not my place to act high and mighty, and soooooo deep.
Only G.O.D. can judge us.
U.N.I.T.Y.

[Beverly Parker]

i just wanted to say, i love your hair. you wear it well. i noticed it right away in the tiny profile pics. 2 things about us women. we tend to hate on ourselves and hate on each other. i grew up not liking just about everything about myself. in the last 10 years i started not only accepting those things but rockin' it only to please me. i do have sistas like you to thank for it. and all women should have each others back. no hating!

[Beverly Parker]

my older sister turned me on to some curly hair products designed especially for curly to keep it healthy and rock it. you might check it out. it's called deva curl. here's their youtube video which is funny but explains the curl concept.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HtnLEHCQ8iA&feature=player_embed...!

hope you like it. healthy locks to ya.