Where I grew up, if you expressed one iota of a tear, there would be a line of fools(male & female) waiting to take your lunch money everyday...when I transitioned over to corporate, I noticed a slight difference on how "emotional" Black Men were treated. Instead of a physical beat-down, emotional black men were never respected. Those brutha's may have gotten promoted and even invited to upscale socialite parties...but never quite fully accepted and the butt of most jokes.
It is unhealthy to hold traumatic and/or dramatic emotions back. There is the fact of poor individual health but poor individual health affects the health of the community and family. By bottling up emotions, we infringe those emotions through our relationships with others and ultimately ourselves. That infringement can be destructive and lead to ensuing disasters like loss of employment, incarceration, and in severe cases, death.
In society (especially professional society) an emotional Black man is alternatively pitied and feared. Pitied because society deems that behavior weak, and feared because a show of emotions makes them think about a time where you may snap and display that which they always knew was in you- the untamed, uncultured ghetto dweller.
In personal settings I feel it comes down to how you carry yourself. I am a grown man who lives in the entire range of human existence, therefore I experience a full range of human emotions. I really got emotional after I had my first child...now some movies make me cry, and I can't watch a child crime on the news without feeling something. Yet no one would look at me a consider me soft. However, my friends know me and know that I am a strong, intelligent, ambitious man. And those men cry as well as laugh.
I have to interject, because who's authorized to specify what constitutes a reason to cry? If you see a man in the middle of the street bawling, more than likely you don't know him, so you perceive it as no reason. In fact you don't know the exact reason.
If he's deeply hurt and disturbed -- let that man cry.
If he's overwhelmingly joyful -- let that man cry.
He's a punk, because someone else says so?
I have people who'll kill me without any remorse, because of my nationality, skin color, or etc. I'm just like to hell with people's assumptions and expectations.
Yes, if he's gay!
Where I grew up and in the time that I grew up in, punk did not equate to gay. A punk was someone who did not stand up for themselves or did punk $hit. I do understand that in certain segments of the country punk and gay are synonymous, but that is NOT my intentions here. I am asking more on the health issue as the article states.
The Benefits of Sharing Emotions
Think about it in the context of your initial question.