Hot Stuff: The Lethal Presidency

Smiley and West discuss Tom Junod's first-person Esquire article "The Lethal Presidency of Barack Obama".

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Permalink Reply by Tyler on September 11, 2012 at 8:28pm

WHY IS IT SO MANY MEN WANTING TO BE GAY OMG WHY?

It's not that we want to be gay, that's just what we are,

Permalink Reply by Heloris Cook on September 12, 2012 at 3:27am



Tyler said:

WHY IS IT SO MANY MEN WANTING TO BE GAY OMG WHY?

It's not that we want to be gay, that's just what we are,

Permalink Reply by Heloris Cook on September 12, 2012 at 3:35am



Heloris Cook said:  I BELIEVE YOU CAN BE BORN GAY,BUT ITS SO MANY MEN WHO SAY THEY ARE GAY TODAY THAT'S WHAT BOTHERS ME. YOU DON'T KNOW WHO YOU'RE SLEEPING WITH WHO CAN YOU TRUST.?



Tyler said:

WHY IS IT SO MANY MEN WANTING TO BE GAY OMG WHY?

It's not that we want to be gay, that's just what we are,

Permalink Reply by Heloris Cook on September 12, 2012 at 3:40am



Tyler said:

I think his name is Obama, not hobama. I'm not sure what hobama is even supposed to mean.

Permalink Reply by Heloris Cook on September 12, 2012 at 3:43am



Heloris Cook said:    SOMEONE MADE THE NAME HOBAMA UP IT DIDN'T COME FROM ME. I RESPECT OUR PRESIDENT



Tyler said:

I think his name is Obama, not hobama. I'm not sure what hobama is even supposed to mean.

Permalink Reply by Tyler on September 18, 2012 at 11:07am

And to clarify, I love being gay, otherwise, I'd be like everyone else. I, certainly, do not want to be like everyone else. A white, straight male from a sub-urban nieghborhood, how mundane, how cliche. I wouldn't be able to open people's eyes to an alternate path to love and grasp a new community of friends.  Also, I wouldn't be here talking to you if I was straight. I think there is a reason for every, "thing". Why did you respond? You seem to be the only one willing to ask a question. Will I answer? Should I? Why did I post that? It gives me a chance to talk to you. So thank you

Are you uncomfortable with homosexuality? It's okay, as long as you are willing to be honest about it. I'll try not to come off as aggressive. I appreciate your interest. I see, you, are the only one to respond. I'm uncomfortable with it at times and still struggle with certain aspects of homosexuality. I came out four years ago, yet I still seek solitude, understanding, and a sense of identity along with genuine friendship. Sex, right now, isn't important to me. Though, like everyone else, I want to have sex. Sex isn't a bad thing, it's one of the greatest acts a human can be involved in, but I want to enjoy that with someone I know and can appreciate their desire to be with me. Though, I suffer the same urges and temptations as everyone else. It's more difficult because I'm gay and I'm expected, maybe, to be more flamboyant than others. Everyone I've come out to always looks bewildered because I defy their normal expectations of what homosexuals are. Because I'm a virgin, many of my peers think I'm not gay, they consider homosexuality to be soley based on a single sexual event. Having sex with another man doesn't and won't define my homosexuality, I choose how I want to define my life.  I'm more likely to deny or hold back from having sex because I'm afraid of how that looks, though. I am self-conscious of how I appear to others and that does bother me.

And that's a wierd question, how would I not know who I'm sleeping with? I don't live in an area with many openly gay men. I don't like men who are out searching for sex, those men that won't admit their homosexual nature. I'd be harming myself, my future and everyone around me if I had the audacity to lower myself to sleep with another man who doesn't even know who he, himself, is. I want nothing to do with people like that. I'll sleep with another man who is open. To sleep with someone that hides from his own self, satisfying a lust he can't control and scowers behind homosexualilty like its a disease, I would be disrespecting my own self. If I accept that I'm gay, and I my feeling towards other men, then I can be in control of my attractions and feelings. I can learn to take control over my actions and be directly responsible for who I am and what actions I take. I do not suffer from a sickness. If I think like that, I will hate myself and live in a self hatred and pity which gets me nowhere. I'm not apologizing to anyone for being me and feeling how I do. I'd be disrespecting myself and my community if I rewarded and encouraged that kind of strange behavior. Sleeping with men I have never met or talked to is dangerous. I have to go on a date or two with the other guy first and see where things went from there.

Permalink Reply by Tyler on September 19, 2012 at 8:33pm

That's sad. No one has replied. Though, I did take several days to respond, I was hoping this discussion would continue. Please ask more questions. Maybe I should ask you questions. What do you, all of you, personally struggle with on a day to day basis?

Permalink Reply by Heloris Cook on September 20, 2012 at 12:49am



Tyler said:

And to clarify, I love being gay, otherwise, I'd be like everyone else. I, certainly, do not want to be like everyone else. A white, straight male from a sub-urban nieghborhood, how mundane, how cliche. I wouldn't be able to open people's eyes to an alternate path to love and grasp a new community of friends.  Also, I wouldn't be here talking to you if I was straight. I think there is a reason for every, "thing". Why did you respond? You seem to be the only one willing to ask a question. Will I answer? Should I? Why did I post that? It gives me a chance to talk to you. So thank you

Are you uncomfortable with homosexuality? It's okay, as long as you are willing to be honest about it. I'll try not to come off as aggressive. I appreciate your interest. I see, you, are the only one to respond. I'm uncomfortable with it at times and still struggle with certain aspects of homosexuality. I came out four years ago, yet I still seek solitude, understanding, and a sense of identity along with genuine friendship. Sex, right now, isn't important to me. Though, like everyone else, I want to have sex. Sex isn't a bad thing, it's one of the greatest acts a human can be involved in, but I want to enjoy that with someone I know and can appreciate their desire to be with me. Though, I suffer the same urges and temptations as everyone else. It's more difficult because I'm gay and I'm expected, maybe, to be more flamboyant than others. Everyone I've come out to always looks bewildered because I defy their normal expectations of what homosexuals are. Because I'm a virgin, many of my peers think I'm not gay, they consider homosexuality to be soley based on a single sexual event. Having sex with another man doesn't and won't define my homosexuality, I choose how I want to define my life.  I'm more likely to deny or hold back from having sex because I'm afraid of how that looks, though. I am self-conscious of how I appear to others and that does bother me.

And that's a wierd question, how would I not know who I'm sleeping with? I don't live in an area with many openly gay men. I don't like men who are out searching for sex, those men that won't admit their homosexual nature. I'd be harming myself, my future and everyone around me if I had the audacity to lower myself to sleep with another man who doesn't even know who he, himself, is. I want nothing to do with people like that. I'll sleep with another man who is open. To sleep with someone that hides from his own self, satisfying a lust he can't control and scowers behind homosexualilty like its a disease, I would be disrespecting my own self. If I accept that I'm gay, and I my feeling towards other men, then I can be in control of my attractions and feelings. I can learn to take control over my actions and be directly responsible for who I am and what actions I take. I do not suffer from a sickness. If I think like that, I will hate myself and live in a self hatred and pity which gets me nowhere. I'm not apologizing to anyone for being me and feeling how I do. I'd be disrespecting myself and my community if I rewarded and encouraged that kind of strange behavior. Sleeping with men I have never met or talked to is dangerous. I have to go on a date or two with the other guy first and see where things went from there.

Permalink Reply by Heloris Cook on September 20, 2012 at 1:01am



Heloris Cook said:     tyler ,you open my eyes to things i didn't know, THANK YOU



Tyler said:

And to clarify, I love being gay, otherwise, I'd be like everyone else. I, certainly, do not want to be like everyone else. A white, straight male from a sub-urban nieghborhood, how mundane, how cliche. I wouldn't be able to open people's eyes to an alternate path to love and grasp a new community of friends.  Also, I wouldn't be here talking to you if I was straight. I think there is a reason for every, "thing". Why did you respond? You seem to be the only one willing to ask a question. Will I answer? Should I? Why did I post that? It gives me a chance to talk to you. So thank you

Are you uncomfortable with homosexuality? It's okay, as long as you are willing to be honest about it. I'll try not to come off as aggressive. I appreciate your interest. I see, you, are the only one to respond. I'm uncomfortable with it at times and still struggle with certain aspects of homosexuality. I came out four years ago, yet I still seek solitude, understanding, and a sense of identity along with genuine friendship. Sex, right now, isn't important to me. Though, like everyone else, I want to have sex. Sex isn't a bad thing, it's one of the greatest acts a human can be involved in, but I want to enjoy that with someone I know and can appreciate their desire to be with me. Though, I suffer the same urges and temptations as everyone else. It's more difficult because I'm gay and I'm expected, maybe, to be more flamboyant than others. Everyone I've come out to always looks bewildered because I defy their normal expectations of what homosexuals are. Because I'm a virgin, many of my peers think I'm not gay, they consider homosexuality to be soley based on a single sexual event. Having sex with another man doesn't and won't define my homosexuality, I choose how I want to define my life.  I'm more likely to deny or hold back from having sex because I'm afraid of how that looks, though. I am self-conscious of how I appear to others and that does bother me.

And that's a wierd question, how would I not know who I'm sleeping with? I don't live in an area with many openly gay men. I don't like men who are out searching for sex, those men that won't admit their homosexual nature. I'd be harming myself, my future and everyone around me if I had the audacity to lower myself to sleep with another man who doesn't even know who he, himself, is. I want nothing to do with people like that. I'll sleep with another man who is open. To sleep with someone that hides from his own self, satisfying a lust he can't control and scowers behind homosexualilty like its a disease, I would be disrespecting my own self. If I accept that I'm gay, and I my feeling towards other men, then I can be in control of my attractions and feelings. I can learn to take control over my actions and be directly responsible for who I am and what actions I take. I do not suffer from a sickness. If I think like that, I will hate myself and live in a self hatred and pity which gets me nowhere. I'm not apologizing to anyone for being me and feeling how I do. I'd be disrespecting myself and my community if I rewarded and encouraged that kind of strange behavior. Sleeping with men I have never met or talked to is dangerous. I have to go on a date or two with the other guy first and see where things went from there.

Permalink Reply by Ricardo Jones on September 21, 2012 at 2:04am
Permalink Reply by Heloris Cook on September 21, 2012 at 5:02am
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Heloris Cook said:    in life we all have successes and failures no one is perfect

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