Effemination of black boys

[True Father]

What yall think about this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGdx8yPybGI&feature=player_embedded

[Teresa]

The mother is doing the right thing, and she's lucky that she have the support she needs to accommodate her son's choice, (although different). The problem is that the real world isn't as accepting of what is beyond the norm . Dyson's life (if he continues this) will not be easy for him ,because he will be misunderstood. As he get older his mother will have to let him know that with every choice you make there are consequences whether good or bad. She has to let Dyson know that what he likes isn't necessarily the norm for most boys, and that others may tease him about what he think is beautiful.This isn't something new, what's different is his mother's way of dealing with this. Most parent wouldn't accept this behavior coming from a boy, and force him to act and dress the same way as other boys, this is when childhood problems develop for children like Dyson. Freedom of expression is important for children , and we kill that as parents by trying to protect our children from the world .

[safirah chinwe]

it was uncomfortable to watch. i understand why other societies choose not to deal with this. i don't see this happen in other countries.

[Avid Follower]

It appears to me that this is another case of parents capitalizing off their own son for money and fame. Remember the "Balloon Boy" fiasco? Will a reality show be next for the "Princess Boy"? I feel sorry for the kid who now has cross-dressing as a memory instilled by his parents. With the information age as such, 30 years from now these pictures of him can be found with search engine results. Will it affect his employment opportunities as well? If a 5 year old girl learns to play dress up in heels and such, isn't this what she does for life? Would it be the same for the "Princess Boy"? Interesting take on heterosexual parents raising society's future children.

[Patrick Haltiwanger]

I don't think we should tolerate nor tailor to these double standards and generalizations any longer.
I fail to comprehend why this has caused such an uproar, but yet we accept the iconic 'tomboy' figure without a peep.

Why does effeminacy have to be detrimental to a boy's livelihood, but in regards to girls it's simply 'tomboyish'? Do not draw your weapons.
Men who are well-kempt and groomed, often times have their masculinity scrutinized -- or labeled 'metrosexual'.

I believe some people are emotionally, mentally, and chemically hardwired this way to express themselves.
It's this NAGGING impulse -- that by not doing so is the equivalent of purposely not breathing.

It's a choice, and shouldn't be used to measure the individual.

[pinklady404]

Avid Follower said:

It appears to me that this is another case of parents capitalizing off their own son for money and fame. Remember the "Balloon Boy" fiasco? Will a reality show be next for the "Princess Boy"? I feel sorry for the kid who now has cross-dressing as a memory instilled by his parents. With the information age as such, 30 years from now these pictures of him can be found with search engine results. Will it affect his employment opportunities as well? If a 5 year old girl learns to play dress up in heels and such, isn't this what she does for life? Would it be the same for the "Princess Boy"? Interesting take on heterosexual parents raising society's future children.

I agree. Princess boy today. Drag queen tomorrow.

[One Iam]

I checked out the video and everybody was talking about "letting Dyson express himself." Dyson is too young to be left alone to express himself. He needs guidance. Thats what children have parents for. If Dyson says he wants to be a princess, his father should tell him why he can't be a princess. Don't just let him put pink ribbons on his toes, he doesn't know any better. Help him to define his gender.

[Patrick Haltiwanger]

He doesn't have to be the prototypical, stoic, nonchalant, cryptic, and manipulative societal puppet -- merely to impress brain mismanaged individuals who aren't vital to his survival, nor supply oxygen.

If you seek YOUR definition of a "real" man, then that's the company YOU need to keep. If Dyson, and others like him, don't fit the bill.
I deem it logical to presume that's a personal matter to resolve with yourself.
HE doesn't need to change. YOU need to go elsewhere to find YOUR preference.

Simple.

[One Iam]

Sweet Tea made an excellent point and I do agree with her. Boys fine tune their identity by watching men. The father being in the household is extremely important. His father should tell him "We don't wear dresses, dresses are for girls. You can be a mama's boy but you're a boy, not a girl. Put on another dress and I'm beating yo' azz." Daddy is in the house, but if he's not in the house, mama has to do it.



Patrick Haltiwanger said:

He doesn't have to be the prototypical, stoic, nonchalant, cryptic, and manipulative societal puppet -- merely to impress brain mismanaged individuals who aren't vital to his survival, nor supply oxygen.

If you seek YOUR definition of a "real" man, then that's the company YOU need to keep. If Dyson, and others like him, don't fit the bill.
I deem it logical to presume that's a personal matter to resolve with yourself.
HE doesn't need to change. YOU need to go elsewhere to find YOUR preference.

Simple.

[Patrick Haltiwanger]

I beg to differ.
I'm appalled that anyone would downplay the significant contributions and sacrifices single mothers make - to ensure they rear their children as best as possible. It's a disservice to say otherwise.
I grew up in a single parent household, and my mother wasn't rearing us to be feminine, masculine, or any of that other drivel.
I was reared to be a free thinking, decisive, progressive, independent, and compassionate HUMAN being.
I honestly don't believe having a male figure in the household guarantees a different outcome. I believe this is psychological.
I kid you not, black folks see everything as black and white - expose yourself to the colors. Most have been taught from the basements of other people's mind, and possess the biggest spoons to stir the asinine pot.

I've had enough of society using these MANMADE LABELS to categorize, classify, and group everyone to make sense of them in YOUR little brain.
So, why does he need to be tainted and risk psychologically scarring him for life -- just to fit close-minded social standards that define 'masculinity'?
The archetypal man, according to social definiton: stoic, nonchalant, cryptic, unkempt, poorly groomed, manipulative, aggressive, and vulgar. To be masculine one has to exhibit these characteristics, just to impress corrupt individuals of this tarnished society.

Dyson needs unconditional love and support, and as Teresa mentioned for those vital to his survival -- to make sure he understands all actions have consequences.

[Patrick Haltiwanger]

I usually refrain from responding to snarky responses, but under the circumstance and citing the source. I'll make an exception.
It appears you have a severe case of sour grapes. Pain suppressed will lead to cardiac arrest.
I'm aware that ignorant and downtrodden societal puppets are bound down in mental chains, and love assigning labels to endorse conformity and mediocrity.
If I have to be the persnickety, presumptuous, and anal-retentive pain in the butt who advocates CHOICE on these forums.
I will ferociously defend CHOICE, and give ten shades of hell to those that oppose it.

I'm receptive to disagreements, because that doesn't necessarily suggest either side is right or wrong. It's just different opinions.
However, I'm a firm believer in respect the individual and their choices.
You may slice this however you like, but this is the ONLY way I'm serving it.

:D

[One Iam]

Dyson is too young to be given the freedom to decide his wardrobe as well as most other things. He does not have a large enough base of experience to make good decisions. This is where parents come in Patrick. They stop you from eating the wad of gum you found on the sidewalk. They stop you from blowing up the funny looking balloons(condoms) that you find outside. They stop you from shooting marbles with the brown ones that you find in the grass. Parents are great. They don't let little boys wear neon pink dresses until they're much older and have the base to make a good decision for themselves. Is that hard to understand my brother?

Patrick Haltiwanger said:

I usually refrain from responding to snarky responses, but under the circumstance and citing the source. I'll make an exception.
It appears you have a severe case of sour grapes. Pain suppressed will lead to cardiac arrest.
I'm aware that ignorant and downtrodden societal puppets are bound down in mental chains, and love assigning labels to endorse conformity and mediocrity.
If I have to be the persnickety, presumptuous, and anal-retentive pain in the butt who advocates CHOICE on these forums.
I will ferociously defend CHOICE, and give ten shades of hell to those that oppose it.

I'm receptive to disagreements, because that doesn't necessarily suggest either side is right or wrong. It's just different opinions.
However, I'm a firm believer in respect the individual and their choices.
You may slice this however you like, but this is the ONLY way I'm serving it.

:D

[Patrick Haltiwanger]

According to my knowledge his mother is accepting of it - who else matters?
Let's prevent the little athletic girls that prefer basketball shirts versus dresses; cops & robbers versus doll accessorizing; video games versus tea parties; or break dancing versus ballet.
Let's just discourage them all, because this - flawed - society doesn't agree.
NO INDIVIDUALISM OR CREATIVITY ALLOWED!
PLAY YOUR ASSIGNED ROLE OR BE CRUCIFIED!

self-hatred, they sell it
naive, we buy it
self-criticism, they endorse it
self-praise, they say it's arrogant
so we deny it
self-hatred, they teach it
gullible, we learn it
weak-minded, we try it
miserable, we spread it
it's harder for them to say
they're intimidated by you
so they keep it shrouded in secrecy
disguise it and lash out by teaching you to hate you
they can dissect you with such scientific clarity
yet have no solutions on how to cure poverty
does being yourself really pose a threat to society?
programmed, to accept and settle
crucified, if you rebel and meddle
if they don't like you
they expect you not to like you, too
underhanded conniving motives and tactics
from the naysayers and critics
determined to destroy our design and distort the semantics
born beautiful but they taint us to make us hateful
manmade materialism teaches us to be ungrateful...

He just wants to be free.